Cheating

In this post I will deal specifically with cheating. What is cheating you may ask? Well lets start by defining the root word, which is cheat. It is defined as (according to Merriam-Webster Online): 1: to deprive of something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud2: to influence or lead by deceit, trick, or artifice3: to elude or thwart by or as if by outwitting. Now in regards to cheating in relationships I think the second and third definitions are more prevalent. Cheating in relationships is an unfortunate but highly committed act. The main cause for cheating can vary but most cheating follows the same patterns which is why I dont understand how so many people can't tell when their partner is cheating.Now I for one am not the smartest man on the planet, but I do possess an amazing ability to be able to tell when cheating has (or will) occur. "Most people" think that they know if their partner is cheating yet "most people" are the ones who get cheated on everyday. One of the main reasons people get cheated on without being aware is, say it with me people, DENIAL. We all think that we have the best relationship and our “life partners” are perfect beyond a reasonable doubt, but how many of us really sit down and ask ourselves “is it possible for this person to cheat on me”? The honest answer is yes, they can. The act of cheating can be accomplished by everyone on this planet just as the act of sweating can be accomplished by anyone running in 85 degree weather. What happens in most relationships’ that literally opens the floodgates for cheating is when one person eliminates the cheating factor completely from the other person’s portfolio. This not only puts them at an unfair disadvantage because it causes them to disregard certain acts of infidelity no matter how small they are, but It also gives the soon-to-be cheater much more wiggle room to do it because you aren’t suspecting or questioning any of their actions. My advice to you is this: NEVER eliminate the cheating factor from someone’s portfolio. Always go into relationships initially with your guards up. Remember, most people put on their best show for their first impression. But you are not just basing your decisions on their personality alone, but their character as well. Get more info on them find out a little bit about their background. Why didn’t their last relationship work? Also find out their VALUES as compared to yours. This is a critical one. If you are already in the relationship by the time you are reading this hope is not lost! All people can cheat but you have to look at your partners PROBABILITY to cheat, and you cant do that if you have eliminated cheating from their portfolio altogether. If you want more in-depth details on how to tell if they are cheating you can hit me with an email ziggydoom@gmail.com and we can go over it more personally there.

- Z.I